Ask marriage and family counseling questions to a qualified counselor in North Carolina. Dr. Lee Hersh of American Counseling Online answers your questions.

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Sample Counseling Questions and Answers

Question:

My marriage has lost its enthusiasm, we are nice to each other but we feel ordinary and locked in a habit of just doing every day things---cards on holidays; no real surprises like when we first married some 7 years ago?

Lee says:

You are locked in what I call a "business Marriage”---- take the trash out, go every other Saturday to the movies; go on the annual vacation.  You are both taking each other for granted and don’t even know it.  Let your minds go back to a dating mentality and do from the heart some of those exciting things you did when you first started by being “boy friend & girl friend.”  By the way, keep this attitude and you will both sparkle. Remember, Valentines Day is “EVERY DAY” not just February 14th

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Question:

My boy friend says he loves me; we are in our late twenties. I really do not know what true love is?

Lee says:

A couple is really in “LOVE” when each partner is more concerned with the happiness and well being of each other than themselves. This means we are giving of ourselves to each other unconditionally. Love turns into deep caring, and deep caring turns to love.

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Question:

My ten year old son has ADHD and my husband and I want to do the best for him.

Lee says:

I have developed a program that employs building self esteem with positive relaxing exercises that greatly reduces the anxiety that contributes to ADHD. Check my site for the relaxing CD'S and consider counseling also on my site. Please note I believe medicine is the last resort or if the child does require medicine then my program makes the medicine work better.

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Question:

My teenage daughter is very defiant and her grades have gone from A/B honor roll to C/D. She spends most of the time in her room talking on the telephone. Punishment and grounding don’t seem to help.

Lee says:

Your daughter is in a point where she is in between a teen and an adult which is very stressful and confusing to her. Both parents need to get into her world and “really” understand her needs. Mom, especially needs to be a mother and a friend. This will make her feel acceptance which builds her self esteem, reduces her anger and defiant behavior; consequently she will show healthy behavior and even her grades will go up because she will want to do this for herself and gain parent’s approval. The key here is that your daughter needs to feel that her parents really care about her needs and her wants.